Andy Crapol

He Never Walked Alone

​A place to remember our friend.

Happy 36th Birthday, Andy

Once a week my wife and I send our two children — just 1 1/2 and three weeks old, respectively — letters to email accounts they won't check (or even know about) for years. It's a way for us to effortlessly send them our love and simultaneously build a digital treasure trove of pictures, hugs, special moments and feelings, to be excavated (and embarrassed by) when they're ready.

This is the letter I sent them today. Happy Birthday, Andy!

Q


Good morning, guys!

Today, July 11th, is a special day. It’s Andy’s birthday. He would have been 36 today — probably losing his hair! 

This morning we read our Andy book in bed while you both had your milk, and we talked about what a good friend Andy was to me, and to Uncle Shane, Uncle Casey, and Loosh and Jay and Matt and Ivan and so many more. He was loyal and dedicated, and true — qualities I try to nurture in you both every day. He was also pretty short and very quick — qualities that made him both a wonderful soccer player, and quite the escape artist in moments of real, imaginary or self-induced danger.

I’ve now lived two years longer than Andy did, and in the time since he passed, my beliefs about family and love have only been reinforced. All we can do is consider the people we love, and if we do that, and do it every day, we’ll go through this life with a core of people we can love and depend on. We can love them in their hardest moments, and their best, out in the open for all to see and in private, at their most vulnerable. We only go through this life once, and it’s best experienced with a highly concentrated dose of love. I only hope you can both find those friends who love you back, and that you treat them the way Andy treated us. Like family. We share everything with them: our blocks and trains, dolls and books, laughter and tears, hugs and goodbyes. Everything is better shared with a friend like Andy.

We can’t take anything with us when we go, but regardless of what this life holds for us after we fade away, we leave behind the relationships we nourished along the way. Our through-line isn’t the places we go or the things we touch, it’s the people we choose to experience them with: our partners (like Mom is for me) our children, our brothers and sisters and moms and dads, and our friends — the family we get to choose. I wouldn’t trade mine for the world.

I hope you have a wonderful day. Tonight we’ll have your very first ice cream, and we’ll celebrate the man who makes me want to be a better husband, father, brother, son and friend.

Love,

Dad

 

5 Years Later

5 years ago today we lost one of the loves of my life, Andy . Still feels fresh and raw. And yet so much has happened since.

Today I look back at the last five years and I'm thankful for all of our friends today, who work so hard to be together at least once a year. I'm thankful for Liverpool fighting for a place in the Champions League, for the first time since he passed. He'd be shocked and elated, and so jealous I have a Gerrard jersey hanging in my den that reads "To Andy, He Never Walked Alone."

Finally, I'm thankful for my son, who not coincidentally got his first pair of Sambas and a size 3 soccer ball this week.

Every day I push on for the life you led, and the life you were meant to have. We love you, little buddy.

AndyCrapol.com 2.0

It's been four years since Andy left us and, remembering his fondness for shiny new toys, I thought it was a fitting moment to take advantage of fun new technologies and move our little gathering place into the future.

I hope you find it a cleaner, easier place to spend some time.

All of the very best,

Quinn

2012 Crapol Award Winner and Memorial Scholarship Recipient: Will Smith

The third winner of the William & Mary men's soccer "Crapol Award" winner is #14, sophomore Will Smith. Will is also the newest recipient of the Andrew E. Crapol Memorial Scholarship. Congratulations, Will!  

Will Smith - 2nd Crapol Award winner

Will Smith Bio

SOPHOMORE YEAR (2011)

Second Team All-CAA ... Second-Team VaSID All-State ... Appeared and started in all 19 matches for the Tribe, playing every minute ... Totaled two points on two assists ... Notched an assist in the College's 1-0 win at Towson ... Recorded his first collegiate point, tallying an assist in the Tribe's 2-0 win over UNC Greensboro ...

FRESHMAN YEAR (2010)

Appeared in 19 matches, earning 18 starts ... Prior to the season, qualified for the U.S. Amateur Golf Championship, carding a total of 146 (+2) at a regional qualifier ...

HIGH SCHOOL

Three-time all-state and all-league honoree at the Westminster School … Finished his career with 11 goals and 60 assists … Led team in assists all four years …Named captain during junior and senior years, helping lead team to New England Tournament during his junior season … Played for the U-15 Connecticut state championship team … Participated in the U.S. Development Academy from 2007-10 … Also four-year letterman in golf, winning the New England Tournament his sophomore season … Vice president of his class in high school …

PERSONAL

Son of Larry and Marguerita Smith … Brother, Christopher, graduated from the College in 2007 … Other brother, Ben, played hockey for Boston College for four years and was drafted by the Chicago Blackhawks … Plans to major in political science at W&M.

CRAPOLFEST 2012!

Friends! Lace those sneakers and get those putters ready!

CRAPOLFEST 2012, our fourth annual celebration of Andy's life and fundraiser for the W&M scholarship in his name, will be held over the weekend of October 20th. I repeat, ALL of the events will be on the same weekend. So no excuses!

Please check out our CRAPOLFEST 2012 page for more information and to register for all of the events.

See you in October!

CRAPOLFEST 2011!

Friends! Lace those sneakers! We're excited to announce the dates of Crapolfest 2011, our third annual celebration of Andy's life and fundraiser for the W&M scholarship in his name. This fall the events are split into two fun October weekends! Please check out our Crapolfest 2011 page for more information and to register for all of the events.

See you in October!

Strong Like Bull: One Year Later

Andy, my brother, it's crazy to think it's been a full year since we last heard your magnificent cackle. How I miss it, and think about it every day. I hope you've found peace and happiness, love and laughter. Though you're gone, I think we all rest a little bit easier at night knowing somewhere, someone is getting to meet you for the very first time. Someone's on the receiving end of a firm handshake, a furrowed brow and an enormous smile. But most importantly, they're finding a friend - for life. Where would we all be without that impression you left on us? Without the confidence you gave us to go into the world and treat people with respect? To be healthy and strong (and pretty quick, too), to love and be loved. To laugh at every possible occasion (especially at ourselves) and be a dependable (and irreplaceable) shoulder to cry on. To live life to its fullest, and consume all of the ice cream we can possibly get our mitts on. To run fast, and do our pull-ups. And our push-ups. To stoke the competitive fire whenever possible. Especially with friends. To adore our parents and savor every opportunity to teach a child. To eat - oh, to eat - and to very truly "drink and be merry". Perhaps most importantly, to cherish the vital moments we are so lucky to share with loved ones, friends and family. These rules, the Andy Rules - I just don't know where, or who, I would be without them. I'm sure - I know - there are probably many people who agree with me. Etched onto a stone tablet: no. Memorialized into the upward corners of your legendary and winsome smile: indeed. Because you've lost your touch doesn't mean you'll ever lose your touch: of this, I am sure. You will, and always will be, a friend, a mentor, a brother and a brightly lit path for greeting each day with renewed warmth, desire and compassion. We are fragile, but our bonds our not.

Be good, my friend. We miss you. As always, Strong Like Bull.

Andrew E. Crapol Scholarship Fund

We're very excited to announce the official establishment of the Andrew E. Crapol Scholarship Fund at the College of William & Mary. Through all of your wonderful generosity and support, our expectations have been surpassed, with an endowment coming in just our first year of trying. These efforts are a beautiful testament to Andy's love of his time at William & Mary and the game of soccer, as well as your love for Andy.
The full text of the announcement is below. Thank you, for all that you do. Congrats, Andy. ---------------------------------------------------------------------- THE COLLEGE OF WILLIAM & MARY FOUNDATION

ESTABLISHMENT OF THE ANDREW E. CRAPOL SCHOLARSHIP FUND

“Life is no brief candle to me. It is a sort of splendid torch which I have got a hold of for a moment, and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it on to future generations.” ~George Bernard Shaw

An endowment has been established in loving memory of Andrew E. Crapol ’00 at the College of William & Mary to support a scholarship for a member of the men’s soccer team. Created through an outpouring of generosity from family and friends, the Andrew E. Crapol Scholarship Fund will provide assistance to a student athlete who demonstrates, as Andy did so well, outstanding leadership and team spirit.

Jovial and energetic, caring and successful — words are insufficient to describe the life that was tragically cut short in March of this year, but the numerous friends, admiring teammates, and loving family members that Andy left behind are powerful testimony to the remarkable Williamsburg native. A four-year athlete in both high school and college, Andy was a member and leader of William & Mary’s men’s soccer team from 1996 to 2000, winning the Coach’s Award (since renamed the Crapol Award) his senior year.

Equally avid about learning as he was about soccer, Andy’s natural curiosity about the world took him to America’s capital and London following receipt of his Bachelor of Arts in economics. He subsequently pursued his interest in the legal profession, earning his Juris Doctor from the University of Virginia in 2005 and joining the international firm Debevoise & Plimpton as an associate. In January 2009, he married his longtime sweetheart, Allison Simmons Crapol ’03.

As one person has remarked, “The mold was broken with Andy Crapol, and we were all enriched by his time with us.” Although he is keenly missed, Andy’s spirit is still very much alive at his alma mater. With this scholarship, his legacy will be further enlarged through future Tribe soccer players.

THEREFORE, BE IT RESOLVED that the trustees of The College of William & Mary Foundation hereby express their sincere gratitude to Allison Simmons Crapol ’03; Edward P. Crapol and the Honorable Jeanne F. Zeidler M.A.Ed. ’76, Andy’s parents; Heidi A. Crapol ’84, his sister; and all other family and friends who have honored Andy’s memory at the College; and

BE IT FINALLY RESOLVED that the trustees of The College of William & Mary Foundation hereby accept this commitment and establish the Andrew E. Crapol Scholarship Fund.

W. Taylor Reveley, III President The College of William & Mary October 23, 2009

Welcome Friends!

Welcome to AndyCrapol.com. This website was built in honor of our brother and friend, Andy Crapol, who passed away on March 13 2009 after a battle with esophageal cancer. One of Andy's favorite past times was congregating with his close friends and family, and so we expect this place to grow and evolve as the memory of Andy grows stronger with time.  Please enjoy and have a wonderful day.

Thank you.

New! Thanks to everyone who supported and participated in the inaugural Crapolfest. Check out the Crapolfest page for new pictures and more!